Is It Possible To Have A Perfect Relationship – Tips to Achieve Perfection

Everyone desires the “perfect” relationship. The trouble is that the “perfect” relationship is not something you can buy or acquire. Any relationship can become the “perfect” one for you if you follow some basic guidelines.

1. Honesty. Be yourself. The biggest mistake made in relationships is trying to sugar coat the real personality that you are. If you be who you really are inside, you will find the perfect partner that will love you for just the person you are.

2. Communicate. Having open communication in a relationship is essential. Unfortunately, as time goes on in many relationships people stop communicating. There are very few people who can read others minds. If you do not communicate your thoughts and feelings, your partner may never know how you really feel.

3. Keep Intimacy Alive. In a brand new relationship it comes natural to be intimate with one another. That chemistry is one of the laws of attraction that connected you in the first place. Life will step in and most fall into the rut of complacency, forgetting to take the time out for intimacy. For a successful relationship this time out is a MUST.

4. Patience. More times than not, in any situation we want the end result now. Every relationship worth having takes time and effort to develop and grow.

Have the patience, be it a new relationship just sprouting or one that you are nurturing the blooms. Let time become a wonderful and blissful state to be in.

5. Commitment. A relationship worth having takes work. Both partners need to have the commitment to apply the first four ideals.

All relationships have three different aspects to them. The three aspects need to be aligned and balanced in order to create the “perfect” relationship for you. The physical aspect is usually the easiest. The bonding physically is where many people stop in working on the relationship, never taking the time to realize the other two missing aspects.

The emotional aspect is vastly misunderstood. Many believe that if they are not happy or “perfectly” blissful, they are not in the right relationship. The emotional aspects of a relationship also require the application of the five simple ideals given above. Without applying communication and honesty there is now way a relationship can be had on an emotional basis.

The last aspect is spiritual. Every relationship is a spiritual one. Even the relationship a person has with themselves is spiritual in nature. All relationships that you may have with co workers to the most intimate relationship you have with a partner have deeper meanings and purposes that as individuals we may not understand.

The spiritual energy within is what radiates from individuals giving off that primal physical connection we call chemistry. How many times have you looked at someone and said to yourself, “they are perfectly glowing today”. That glowing is the spiritual relationship that they have with themselves radiating outward.

The more you practice applying the principles outlined in every relationship you have, the realization will come that the “perfect” one may be the one you are already in and never realized it. The more we practice, the more we find ourselves capable of being present in the moment. Present to love and cherish the moments of the journey.

Infidelity In Relationships

When it comes to relationships and marriages, hardly is there a topic as touchy as one that has to do with the issue of infidelity. This is more so because few upheavals in the course of a relationship cause as much turmoil as this thorny issue which often lead to relationships breaking up, marriages filing for divorces, insecurity, mistrust and resentment replacing the love, trust and comfort that most of these relationships once fostered.

Infidelity according to the Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary means the act of not being faithful to your wife, husband or partner, by having sex with somebody else. Therefore for the purpose of this article and others relating to the issue of infidelity, the term “relationship” will be used to refer to both those in marriages and those that are in a mutually exclusive relationship of love.

The most perplexing reality about infidelity in relationships is the fact that no relationship is immune to it as it knows no boundary. It respects neither creed nor colour; the rich or poor, newlywed or those celebrating their golden anniversaries. The fact is that it can happen to anyone – even you. According to the Journal of Marriage and Family, couples in “pretty happy” marriages are twice as likely to have an affair as those in “very happy” marriages.

To worsen the situation, the available statistics appear very gloomy and frightening, making you think if there is any hope for today’s relationships surviving its onslaught. According to Peggy Vaughan’s (author of The Monogamy Myth) analysis show that 60 percent of husbands and 40 percent of wives will have an affair at some point in their marriage; however, less than 10 percent of people who have affairs divorce and marry their lovers.

With that said it is heart-warming and reassuring to at least realise that there is a glimmer of hope of today’s relationships surviving and coping with this monster of infidelity.

Let’s step back a little and look at possible reasons why infidelity keeps rearing its ugly head in our relationships today.

Majority of people enter into relationships with the expectation of finding fulfilment and happiness in the company of their partner. They hope that their partner would help them to validate and complete the feelings of emptiness, unworthiness and insecurity they have. When these feelings and needs are not met by their partner, most start to look outside of the relationship to find someone who might fulfil these needs. This is the root cause of infidelity – the lack of happiness and satisfaction in relationships.

The affairs are not the actual problem but are the symptom of the problems the relationship might be experiencing. Most issues of infidelity centre on the need for approval, attention and sex needing to be met and satisfied by the other partner in the relationship. It is therefore reasonable to say that 90% of affairs occur because of the close emotional connection that is often formed between the cheater and his accomplice rather than just the need for sexual intimacy.

The main reason why infidelity is so damaging and painful is because of the betrayal, lack of trust, secrets and deception that took place in the course of the affair. Infidelity basically breaks the most sacred treasure in any relationship, that of trust. Without trust you cannot be open with someone and ultimately you can never be happy either.

After the devastating disclosure of infidelity, how to deal with it varies from person to person, but the knowledge that recovery is possible can help those affected work through it. Reassuringly, the majority of relationships affected by infidelity not only survive it, but observation by professionals show that many of these relationships become stronger and more intimate after therapy.

The surest way to forestall this incidence from reoccurring is to discover how and why the emotional disconnection happened in the relationship and work towards resolving them together with your partner. Nonetheless, there must be true remorse and willingness on the part of the cheater to change and repair the damage done and the cheated is willing to work hard to forgive the cheater.

However, bear in mind that recovery will not come overnight as the process takes time – often years to rebuild the broken trust. Once the coupes are committed to working together in dealing with the issues at the heart of the emotional disconnection, their relationship can most definitely survive, and thrive, after infidelity.

Why Men Leave Relationships – The Role Sex Plays

Well that is one heck of a challenge to answer! But not entirely impossible. If you are a woman who has recently broken up with their partner, then I completely understand your curiosity.

The are many reasons why men leave relationships. The phrase “the grass is always greener on the other side” comes to mind. Plus humans seem to be hard wired to always want something better, and never seem content with what they have got.

Where Sex Comes Into It
Quite often though the reason why men leave relationships can come down to sex! Men and women both have natural instincts to procreate, and with men, just like with animals, they have instincts to procreate with as many women as possible to ensure many offspring.

Where this causes a problem is that modern society is no longer like that, and monogamy is the accepted way of life.

The point I am trying to make is that sex, or more importantly the lack of it within a relationship, can quite often be the reason why men leave relationships.

Have you let the sex and more importantly the spark dissolve within your relationship? Quite often as relationships mature and the initial excitement dies down, the sex can almost completely dry up.

If this is the case, it can be quite dangerous to your relationship. Naturally a man is going to start looking elsewhere if the sex dries up within a relationship. It is a result of his human nature.

You might argue that I am suggesting you must give in to sex in order to keep your man in the relationship.

I want to counter your line of thought by saying, that in a healthy relationship, both you and your man should want to regularly have sex with each other.

If you have no desire to have sex with your man, and feel like you “have” to have sex with him order to keep him, then your relationship is unhealthy, and a sign of deeper issues.

This seems like tough advice I know. But more often than not this is the reason why men leave relationships.

How To Mend Your Relationship
If you have recently broken up with your man, then I encourage you to examine the relationship with him, and see if you can identify similar issues.

If the end result is something that you can fix within yourself, and you are willing to do so, then it is highly likely that the relationship can be salvaged.

This brings about the next problem! it is one thing knowing why men leave relationships, it is another knowing how to salvage your relationship…where to begin even!

If you are willing to work on those aspects of yourself that could have contributed to then ending of your relationship, then I highly recommend you seek further advice from and expert on how to salvage your relationship.

In the mean time, smile, be happy! and take the time to reflect on why men leave relationships. And how that could apply to your past or current relationship.